The Lonely Diplomat
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The Lonely Diplomat
Reconnecting diplomats and those living the diplomatic life with themselves and the world around them. Let's reconnect you to yourself and to the world around you.
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72 дугаарEp. 72 - Join us for something great
This is a bittersweet episode, because – well – after 72 episodes over 4.5 years and with 30,000 listens in almost 200 countries, this is the final ep...
Ep. 71 - Stop pushing through your loneliness
What do you do when you’re experiencing one of life’s challenges?
Do you acknowledge it and work through it or do you just push through?...
Ep. 70 - Coming out as lonely
If it’s not already clear: I’m Phil. I’m gay and I get lonely. I come out as gay all the time.
I also come out as lonely all the time. C...
Ep. 69 - Denying loneliness denies connection
This sounds a bit weird, but the connection you need and deserve: the soul-nourishing, toe-curling connection you need and deserve is waiting for you....
Ep. 68 - Stop comparing your loneliness
Stop competing against other people’s loneliness. Or, in other words, stop comparing your loneliness to anyone else’s.
All you’re doing...
Ep. 67 - You're not broken, you're human
The thoughts and feelings of loneliness can make you feel like you’re a broken human. But I know this to be true: loneliness doesn’t make you a broken...
Ep. 66 - The loneliness of abusive relationships
We’re exploring a tough topic in this episode: we’re exploring that awful kind of loneliness we humans can get when we’re in an abusive relationship....
Ep. 65 - The loneliness pool
I’m very visual, so I often think of loneliness as a pool. There are many ways to enter the pool, but once you’re in, you’re in. How did you enter the...
Ep. 64 - Life as a diplobrat - a chat with Toby
Grown-ups, it’s time to listen.
It’s time to listen to those smart, engaged and observant young people in our lives like 16-year-old Tob...
Ep. 63 - Relationships & diplomacy
During your diplomatic life, you’ve likely encountered the demands of diplomacy on your relationships, be those relationships those with your family,...
Ep. 62 - Beware the overshare
You MUST speak your loneliness if you are to learn from it and move towards getting the connection you need. But, beware the loneliness overshare.
Ep. 61 - You're not alone
I don’t know about your loneliness, but when I feel lonely, I often feel as if I’m the only person in the world who’s thinking these horrible thoughts...
Ep. 60 - Why loneliness? Why me?
Welcome to a new format for The Lonely Diplomat podcast: quick connection boosts of 10 minutes or less.
In this first short episode we’r...
Ep. 59 - Getting to know us - with Jeff Bartlett
Come and join me and my beautiful partner Jeff for a chat about him, me and us.
Jeff and I recorded some magic in this episode. The conve...
Ep. 58 - Your life audit
Are you inadvertently feeding connection and starving loneliness? Let's check.
It’s time to sharpen your pencil and set aside a few mome...
Ep. 57 - Managing your overwhelm
I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately.
I thought that I was hiding it well. I wasn’t. It took a kind and honest conversation to help me u...
Ep. 56 - Our kids are not OK - with Tanya Crossman
To the humans of international diplomacy:
Our kids are not OK.
They’re reporting high levels of emotional abuse, emotional...
Ep. 55 - Supporting diplomatic mums - with Karina Lagarrigue
Come and join me and Karina Lagarrigue for a conversation about how we can best support diplomatic mums.
Karina is a Barcelona-based psy...
Ep. 54 - Connection for the modern diplomat
Come and join me for a real conversation about what it means to connect.
Connection is a big deal. It’s the antidote to loneliness and y...
Ep. 53 - Hitting rock bottom
Come and join me for a real conversation about what it means to be at a rock bottom mentally, emotionally, physically and socially while living the di...
Ep. 52 - 'Diplomatic spouses, reunite!' with Georgie Ryan
Come and join me and Georgie Ryan for a cup of tea and a chat about being an accompanying significant other while living her diplomatic life in this e...
Ep. 51 - Always being on
Many aspects of this diplomatic life are amazing. And there are many that are, well, far from amazing.
Always needing to be ready – to b...
Ep. 50 - I'm back
I’m back.
It’s been a while, hasn’t it? There’s been a lot happening with me AND with The Lonely Diplomat.
Let’s catch up....
Ep. 49 - A call to the diplomatic disrupters
There’s something calming about observing protocols and heeding diplomatic traditions in times of great disruption, uncertainty and stress.
Ep. 48 - My resilience reset
Let’s have a chat about real resilience and courage in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
A whole lot of life has happened for...
Ep. 47 - The courage to change
Happy New Year! It’s 2022 and our thoughts may be turning to the New Year and New Year’s resolutions.
What’s it going to be for you? Qui...
Ep. 46 - Reflecting on 2021
Ah, it’s getting towards the pointy end of the festive season and you might get some days off to rest and recharge shortly.
Not before t...
Ep. 45 - The power of belonging
Do you still feel like you must prove that you’re worthy of having your job wherever you are in the world?
Do you still feel like you mu...
Ep. 44 - 'I can't relax'
One of you in my awesome global audience shared with me that you simply can’t turn off: you can’t relax.
You’re always checking email. Y...
Ep. 43 - 'But I'm a diplomat!' - Privilege, entitlement and diplomacy
While it sometimes may not feel like it, by any measure, diplomats and those who live the diplomatic life are privileged.
Sometimes, we’...
Ep. 42 - A call to the men of diplomacy
I’m calling forward the men of diplomacy to sit with me and talk about something real.
That means no:
- talk about work or...
Ep. 41 - Accent misunderstandings
I bet that every diplomat and those who live the diplomatic life can share several stories about how their accent made it challenging to be understood...
Ep. 40 - Reflecting on COVID times
While no one wanted the lesson, COVID is a powerful teacher.
We’re learning a lesson about who and what is important in our lives. We’re...
Ep. 39 - 'Fake it till I make it'
Hello! It's wonderful to be back in your ears having a chat with you.
In this first episode of this new season, we’ll chat about how the...
Ep. 38 - 'I need a life'
In this final episode of the current series, we’ll chat about how diplomacy often requires us to be ready to work at all hours.
We’ll ta...
Ep. 37 - 'I'm struggling to cope'
In this second last episode in this series, we’re going to discuss what can happen when we valiantly try to cope with ceaseless demands on our time an...
Ep. 36 - 'My husband cheated'
We’re going to have a kind and honest conversation on a subject that we too often only speak about in hushed tones: relationship infidelity and the ch...
Ep. 35 - 'I didn't want to be a burden'
One of you – my awesome global audience – shared with me that you’d been enduring constant bullying, harassment and intimidation in your workplace. Yo...
Ep. 34 - 'Should we do another posting?'
Let’s jump straight into 2021 and let’s have a chat about an issue that many diplomats who belong in a family or community all struggle with at some p...
Ep. 33 - 'Christmas is hard'
I’m all about helping you reconnect with yourself and the world around you as you lead your diplomatic life.
What are your plans for Chr...